Dating Advice: Dear Debby and Jerry
November 8, 2013
November 8, 2013
Dear Debby and Jerry,
Boy do I have a problem. I met a fantastic lady through online dating and we’ve been dating exclusively for 4 months. We love each and get along great except for one thing. My oldest son has been a problem for some time now. He is 32 and had moved back in with me when he lost his job. My girlfriend says he is old enough to take care of himself and solve his own problems. Her children are also grown and are self-sufficient. I just think my son needs a little more time and help. What do you think?
– Herman, Charlotte, NC
Dear Herman,
I agree with your girlfriend.
– Jerry
Dear Herman,
Jerry has a point, although I would add to it. Have you considered telling your son that he has a certain amount of time to get his life together and get his own place? If this were not a permanent situation perhaps your girlfriend would be more understanding.
– Debby
Dear Debby and Jerry,
I have had a 4 month relationship with a guy from an Internet dating site. I thought things were great until he abruptly broke up with me with an email. Apparently he had met someone younger and better-looking than I am. Do you think online dating promotes this type of easy break-ups? Is online dating transient at best?
– Martha, Charleston, SC
Dear Martha,
The nature of online dating can make it easier to end a relationship. You met on the Internet so many people think you can end a relationship this way as well. This does not make it right and does not give anyone the right to be rude, unkind, or mean. If this guy was that shallow, you are fortunate to be out of it. And not everyone is like your ex. There are many kind, well-meaning gentlemen out there so don’t give up.
– Debby
Dear Martha,
First, the reason he broke up with you seems to be speculative on your part. That really does not matter. However, after 4 months he should have had the manliness to tell you in person with or without the reason. It would be better to know the real reason if he would be willing to tell you. Even though you have to deal with his lack of consideration, I would not let it taint your feelings about on-line dating being transient. Statistics support on-line dating as being a very successful way for most subscribers to meet the right person.
– Jerry
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