Having a Graduation Party? There’s Etiquette!

By Deborah O’Connor
May 9, 2014 

As graduation approaches, there will be many parties to celebrate the big event. I received an interesting letter from Corey, addressing the issue of mixing family and friends and making sure that everyone has a good time.

 

Dear Deborah:

I will be graduating at the end of May and my family wants to throw a party for me at 4:00 pm after the ceremony. I have a huge extended family, but I also have a lot of friends. How do I make sure that my family is honored and appreciated for giving me such a great education, while at the same time ensuring that my friends have a great time.

Corey

 

Dear Corey:

You pose an interesting question. I do want to say that you are very thoughtful in that you want to thank those who made it possible for you to get a wonderful education. And fortunately there is a way to make sure all of the generations have a wonderful time. Here are some suggestions for a successful party.

• The party starts at 4:00 pm, so make sure all of your friends will be there. It is important that they mingle and speak to your relatives, which shows respect. They might mention how they know you, add a few anecdotes, and in general be kind and respectful.

• Make sure your friends all know the dress code for the graduation party. Everyone should be dressed business casually to show respect. Remember, this party crosses generations, as there will be grandparents, parents, and students.

• Let your friends know ahead of time that after the main party, there will be a “friends” party. The grandparents and parents will probably retire after a few hours, and this will be the time you and your friends can party and enjoy each other.

• If you do not want to receive gifts, make sure you have that on the invitations. If you do want to receive gifts, you need not say anything. If you want gifts to be a donation, be sure to state that clearly on the invites. Let guests know exactly where to send donations.

• Always send a hand-written thank-you note to anyone who gives you a gift. To not do so would be a serious breach of etiquette. Mention the gift in your note and be sure to tell them how much you appreciate their thoughtfulness.

• If you are a guest at the party, ask if you can bring something. An extra dessert or hors d’oeuvre can be very helpful. Make sure to bring it in a dish that can be put out, along with the proper serving utensils.

• Be a thoughtful guest by making a point of talking to as many people as you can. You do have a responsibility to mingle and be pleasant.

 

With a little forethought and planning, you can make sure all generations have a great time at your graduation party.

 

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Deborah O’Connor is a social strategist and founder and president of Successful Image LLC with offices in Columbia and Atlanta. She offers training and seminars on image management, workplace etiquette, and social skills necessary to succeed in life professionally and personally. Contact at:  [email protected]        www.successfulimage.biz